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MY ROAD TO THE MANOSPHERE - PART 2 - BOTTOM OF THE HIERARCHY

 

Teachers 'give higher marks to girls' - BBC News

Every teacher I had at primary school was female and so were the majority of the ones at secondary school. As early as the age of 6 I noticed how some in the class could misbehave but got dealt with more harshly than others for the same offence. Shout at / humiliate a girl in front of the class and she's more likely to break down and cry than a boy so the teachers are more reluctant to do it. When even a left leaning organization like the BBC admits this you know there's a problem.

Likewise there was the same issues outside of the classroom, especially when it came to violence in the school playground. Officially all violence was unacceptable to the point where literally years of non violent abuse (name calling, spreading rumours , or even inciting others to physical violence) would never be treated as seriously as the smallest physical contact.

2 boys or 2 girls are fighting with no clear indicator of who landed the landed the first punch: Both are dealt with equally           fair enough

2 are fighting and teacher knows who landed first punch : Hitting back is not acceptable and is dealt with nearly as severally as the person who thrown the first punch.    In other words your not allowed to defend yourself in most cases.

While this was bad enough, when it came to violence between boys and girls the double standards couldn't have been more obvious.

A boy hitting a girl would be treated more seriously than....

A bigger, older boy hitting a smaller weaker boy.
A group of boys hitting a single boy. Or a group of girls hitting a single girl, if the attackers in this video were male the consequences would have been a lot more severe. 

Even the mere accusation of violence is treated differently, a girl reporting violence by a boy he is assumed guilty until proven innocent where as a boy reporting violence by a girl will often just be laughed at.

Not only does Female on male violence, get treated differently by authorities but also with bystanders. Males will get harassed by White Knights and socially shamed afterwards even when the women has thrown the first punch. Men are always in the wrong by default.
The Myth of Never Hitting a Woman – Return Of Kings

This goes through all levels of society from the school playground to nightclubs to the law of the land. 

The above also applies to "hate crime" where racist and homophobic abuse is treated far more seriously than non racist and non homophobic abuse.

Schoolboy, 12, tried to kill himself twice in one month after cruel taunts over his red hair (thesun.co.uk)

In short, if you are a non religious, straight, white, male you are bottom of the hierarchy.
















MY ROAD TO THE MANOSPHERE - PART 1 - BULLYING


 I grew up with strict parents and was taught to respect authority without question. I was the type of child who did everything "by the book" 99% of the time. Sometime this worked but a lot of time it didn't.

The first major problem I encountered in life was being bullied at school ranging from name calling to social exclusion to actual physical violence. Typically I asked parents and teachers for advice and got answers like.

*Just ignore them.*Just keep away from them.*Don't ever retaliate. *Just stick up for yourself.*Nobody will hurt you on the school bus as there are too many witnesses.

I was often given advice by parents growing up that was probably good back in the 1950s but made absolutely no sense a generation later. They operated under the assumption that the teachers at the school were as strict as they were back in "their day" which they certainly weren't. 

None of the "advice" I was given actually worked. How do you "just ignore" someone in a tight knit village school. How do you "just stick up for yourself" without actually fighting back.

For every incident where a bully ended up in detention there were 20 that he got away with. When I eventually hit back I would often end up in more trouble than the bully ever got into. Even after months and years of reporting the exact same problems I'd keep getting the exact same responses. It was like trying to have a conversation with an automated voice recording instead of a human being.

I'd even say to the teachers point blank "You have been saying that for years, it doesn't work". I just watch them stutter and mumble something about the bullies "will be in big trouble one day". It was like dividing a number by 0 on a calculator and getting an error message. Since then I have seen countless futile actions like wearing anti bullying wristbands or writing anti bulling poetry.


I was never encouraged to do anything that would have actually worked like joining martial arts classes or taking part in afterschool sports groups. Things that would have vastly improved my self confidence and expanded my social circle.

My parents only cared about academic performance, getting bullied was only a minor issue to them. Likewise every (all female) primary school teacher said that it didn't matter if I wasn't good at sport. 

Eventually I got so sick of this that I rebelled which did actually work but at the expense of my academic performance.